Tuesday, November 25, 2014

We Regret to Inform You, Some Cards Will Be Kept Longer Than Others

Do you get Thanksgiving cards in the mail? How do you handle them?

I have a friend who sends a Thanksgiving card, instead of the traditional Christmas greeting.

I think I get it. Maybe the friend wants to be righteous or deliberate about celebrating blessings instead of being mistaken for someone playing the "perfect family Christmas card" game. Maybe she doesn't want her family photo to get lost in the chaos of catalogues, packages and other cards. Maybe she loves to send cards, but doesn't want to be dealing with them after Thanksgiving.

But, there's an unintended consequence.

Instead of hanging the card with all of our other Christmas cards as part of our holiday decor, the card is opened and then left on the counter for the family to see. And on the day after Thanksgiving, when I clear the house of autumnal clutter, I recycle the card. So, instead of having their photo and greeting occupy a vaunted space on our Christmas card wall for an entire month or more, the card is left on the counter for three days and then forgotten.

I'm not hard hearted. One year I tried hanging the Thanksgiving card with the Christmas cards. But, it hung by itself for nearly two weeks, until the first Christmas card arrived. Looking sad and lonely. And then, as the holiday greeting rolled in, the Thanksgiving browns and oranges looked out of sync amidst the reds and greens and blues and silvers. Like a section of 1970s era shag carpet wishing desperately for acceptance in a house full of gleaming hardwoods. It didn't work. I tried.

Keep those cards and letters coming folks. I love all kinds of friendly greetings. Just know that some will be kept longer than others.

Monday, November 24, 2014

The First Thanksgiving

BMG and I were multi-tasking while watching the DVR version of the Plimoth Plantation episode of Top Chef 12. As Padma announced that the chefs were preparing a traditional Thanksgiving feast for descendants of the first Thanksgiving - both the first pilgrims and the Wompanoag peoples, BMG and I looked at each other and observed we were both moved to tears by the premise of the episode.

And then we started laughing.

As we moved towards one another to hug each other BMG said, "I am so glad we found one another. No one else would understand, let alone share, my tears in this moment."

Me too darling, me too.

Saturday, November 8, 2014

Putting my bottle where my mouth is (or why I voted against expanding the beverage deposit law)

I voted against Ballot Question 2 in Massachusetts. And so did a majority of the Bay Staters, because it didn't pass.

I voted against it because the pro-side rhetoric claimed that it was an "anti-litter" bill.

But it wasn't an anti-litter bill. At least not in my opinion.

At its core, it *was* a "let's make litter more valuable so indigent people will pick it up" bill. (It was also a "let's make groceries more expensive for people who don't recycle" bill and a "let's make the manufacture and distribution of beverages in the Bay State more expensive because we need to have different bottles distributed here" bill.)

Chuckleheads will still throw their garbage on the ground. But, with an expanded bottle deposit law, more of the trash that clutters our roadways and neighborhoods will now have value. While the pro-side of of the ballot question didn't come out and say it, it seems fairly straightforward to me that indigent people will collect litter that has value. If we make our most prevalent litter - drink bottles - more valuable, homeless people will collect it. Ergo, our streets look cleaner, making ballot question 2 an anti-litter bill. Right?

Not to me. Instead, it felt underhanded, gross and exploitative.

I would rather we talked about the problems of homelessness, un- and under-employment that lead people to rely on collecting trash to make a living. I would rather we talk about the dynamics (laziness, lack of community- and self-respect) that lead jerks to throw their trash on the ground in the first place. And I would rather that we, as a society, make strategic decisions about if/how we want to address these problems, so we can compel our neighbors, corporate beverage manufacturers, philanthropists and lawmakers to direct fund to support solutions to our persistent problems. I know there will always be people who "choose" to live on the streets, and who will always "choose" to collect bottles and cans as their form of income, but I'm not psyched about expanding this as an option for people who are in dire straights.

What I most certainly DON'T want is a subversive bill designed to support - rather than prevent - indigence. And that's how I understood Massachusetts Ballet Question 2.

So, in the spirit of putting my bottle where my mouth is, I have decided that BMG and I will put a nickel in a kitty for every bottle and can we buy that *would* have been covered by the expanded bottle deposit bill. At some point during the year, we will make a donation of the money to  homelessness prevention/work support program serving our community.

I'm doing a dump run this morning. We have 10 Gatorade and Orangina bottles ready to go to the transfer station. So, I'll put $0.50 in the kitty. And when I get back, I'll start researching community organizations that are making a difference in preventing and alleviating the factors that contribute to homelessness. Suggestions welcome.

Monday, November 3, 2014

How'd I do? (or was I able to restore balance in a week?)

Were you wondering if I would find balance on my week between jobs? (I know I was!)

Here is my diary of from the week:

7:00 AM - Get up with a little help from the alarm
8:00-9:00 - Prep pumpkin bread while waiting for and dealing with the plumber
9:00-10:00 - Go to the gym and restart a C25K
10:00-11:45 - Make pumpkin bread, run vacuum and steam mop, shower
11:45 AM-2:00 PM - Run errands, eat lunch al fresco with my SIL
2:00-4:15 - Rake leaves and transplant
4:15-5:30 - Start relaxing with a glass of wine
5:30-6:30 - Nap
6:30-8:00 - Make and eat dinner
8:00+ - More relaxing with BMG
Body and family taken care of today. And with the gardening, a little soul too

8:00 AM - Wake up (after a terrible night's sleep with a painful headache), drink coffee, make and drink a blueberry kale smoothie & read paper
9:00-11:30 - Work on blog project with BMG
11:30-1:00 PM - Run errands at Staples, Lowe's & Michaels
1:00-1:45 - Coffee with my MIL
2:00-3:30 - Rake, transplant fleurs, and plant tulips, daffodils & grape hyacinth bulbs
3:30-4:00 - Fill out Thanksgiving volunteer application for me and BMG
4:00-7:00 - Loaf, read books, play games, eat dinner
7:00 - Resume binge watching House of Cards with BMG
Tuesday feels like a rerun of Monday, with a little creative time added in. How do I make Wednesday different?

7:00 AM - Up (with help from the alarm), drink coffee, read paper, eat breakfast
8:15-9:45 - Walk to,the gym, exercise for 30 minutes, walk home
9:45-11:30 - Shower, putter, work on a Christmas craft
11:45-1:45 PM - Visit with Gal Pal Lois
1:45-3:30 - Errands, hang Christmas lights (just because they are up doesn't mean we'll light them)
3:30-6:15 - Read, putter
6:15-9:00 - Drive to & then take "Intro to Meditation" class
9:00+ - Watch TV, get ready for bed
Body & soul are fully taken care of today. Add a little friend time & the start of some creative time & I'd say it was a good day.

8:00 AM - Wake up with no alarm (unless you count the cats as an alarm)
8:00-9:15 - Coffee, smoothie, paper, putter
9:15 - Head to Subaru dealer to check low tire pressure
9:45-10:30 - Sit at Subaru dealer until I learn there is a nail in my sidewall and I need a new tire; grab a loaner and go
*Cancel lunch plans in Acton, argue with BMG about whether I was smar enough at the Subaru dealer or if I let them take me for a ride
10:30-4:00 PM - Shop for craft paper and baby gifts, eat lunch, wrap and mail/deliver baby gifts
4:30 - Pick up car with new tire
4:30-7:00 - Meet BMG at the Art gallery, have dinner at a new restaurant
7:00-9:00 - Drinks with BMG's mom
9:30 - Home & in bed
This was a weird day. Had some itchy connecting time with BMG (had expectations that weren't met)', and I spent the day running errands but not taking any joy in them.

7:00 AM - Wake up with the alarm and fall back asleep until 7:45
7:45-8:30 - Coffee and the paper
8:45-10:00 - Walk to the gym, exercise, walk to BIL/SIL's house to pick up truck
10:00-11:00 - Take yard waste to dump and run a handful of local errands
11:00-2:30 PM - Make and deliver gluten-free (and fat-free AND refined sugar-free) cookies for a neighbor, start prepping pasta sauce for dinner, putter and generally get in BMG's way
2:30-4:00 - Go to DPW to renew dump sticker, then head to local bar to read and sip wine away from BMG
4:00-10:00 - Finish making dinner, putter, pass out candy to trick-or-treaters, decoupage bathroom vessels with a Boston map, watch TV, argue with BMG
10:00 - Read in bed until I fall asleep
Body taken care of, along with some necessary errands and a little creative productivity. Soul care was dismal today given the arguing with BMG.

7:30 AM - Feline alarm combined with a headache leftover from the night before wake me up
7:30-9:30 - Coffee, putter while waiting for BMG to wake up, make breakfast, download a headache tracker app with the goal of figuring out the cause/pattern to my persistent headaches
9:30-9:30 PM - Putter, read books, eat, sleep, relax (it was a miserable day outside)
I did nothing to take care of any part of me today. Was still a little down because of the previous day's fight with BMG + two separate headaches. This was a wallowing day.

6:45 AM - Wake up sans alarm (happy end of daylight savings time!)
6:45-8:30 - Coffee, breakfast, putter
8:30-10:00 - Gym for another C25K session and 30 minutes on the recumbent bike
10:00-11:45 - More puttering, cleaning up
11:45-2:30 PM - Run errands, give blood, grocery shop
2:30-5:15 - Putter, read, nap
5:15-6:30 - Prepare and try a new recipe for a salad made of roasted butternut squash, shallots and kale
6:30-8:45 - Putter, read, nap
8:45 - Head to bed, read some more, sleep
Body taken care of - think I've jump started a healthy eating and exercise routine. And I feel proud of having given blood, particularly because I got to talk to a niece about it - raising her awareness that this is one way people can give back to their communities. Thought about working on my Christmas craft and/or addressing Christmas cards, but I didn't feel the mojo. Maybe next weekend?

6:15 AM - Up without an alarm, ready for my first day at my new job

So, how did I do? In m post on Monday, I said I'd try to to the following:

To take care of my body:
  • Go to sleep at a reasonable hour every night, planning to be up between 6:30 and 7:00 each morning (instead of my typical 4:30-5:00 wake up time).
  • Be caffeinated, showered and fed by 8:00 or so, which I'm hoping will be my typical "leave for work" time at the new job. 
  • Make a high protein veggie smoothie for breakfast at least three of the weekdays; prep smoothie packets for the freezer
  • Try at least two new healthy and delicious recipes (sorry BMG).
To take care of my soul: 
To take care of my family: 
  • Plan a Christmas trip to NYC to enjoy the sites and visit with gal pal Suzy Burstein. 
  • Finish making Thanksgiving and Christmas plans to visit my family in NYC. 
  • Order our Christmas cards.
To take care of my creative side: 
  • Cross a couple of Christmas crafts off my "to do" list well in advance of the Christmas season starting.
  • Do a decoupage project in the bathroom. 
  • Blog at least three mornings a week.
  • Finish setting up the website for a creative project I'm doing with BMG.
  • Schedule at least three interviews for a creative project I'm doing with BMG. 
I took care of my body and soul on my week off. Family and creativity - a little lacking, but I'm well on my way to restoring balance in my life.